Swiping, Surfing, Distancing. On Web-Connected Love

Authors

  • Radu Simion Associate Lecturer, Ph.D. Department of Philosophy, Faculty of History and Philosophy, Babeş-Bolyai University, Cluj-Napoca, Romania

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.18662/jsmi/3.1/16

Keywords:

online dating, technology, entertainment, ethics, love

Abstract

The purpose of this paper is to highlight the main features of the technology-mediated communication concerning online love affrairs. The thesis I will support is that emotional connections via internet are framed into a new discourse on personal identity and alterity, creating a new perspective on the culture of intimate relationships, with specific attitudes, behaviours and values, drawing new guidelines of emotivity, methaphors and concepts we use to express our feelings and thoughts. Thus, I will briefly investigate the phenomenon of online love datings as part of a media entartainment culture, the problem of intercorporeality and the paradox of choosing partners on the internet, together with their implications on the ethics of care, intimacy and togetherness. Away from giving verdicts or announcing the end of authentic communication, I will develop a conceptual framework to aid in exploring theoretical traits, combining interdisciplinary approaches in order to reflect them in online love-dating interactions. In the conclusion section, I will enlight on how we can succesfully develop a strong and reliable connection with a romantic partner, using the elements mentioned below, focusing on combining online and offline practices in order to nurture a mature and meaningfull relationship in the age of shifting communication paradigms.

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Published

2021-07-27

How to Cite

Simion, R. (2021). Swiping, Surfing, Distancing. On Web-Connected Love. Journal for Social Media Inquiry, 3(1), 50-63. https://doi.org/10.18662/jsmi/3.1/16

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